The problem is
not with the rockers themselves. Swapping them and getting the same results proves that they're consistent.
My first suggestion, based on similar but not identical issues, would be to check the rocker shafts for straightness. Roll 'em on the flattest surface you can find and see if they've any banana-like tendencies. I had two rocker shafts that were hooped, badly, and those were mega-duty Harland Sharp pieces. Swapping them for new shafts (because I had 'em) solved all my inconsistencies during the pushrod-measuring process.
You could also try tap-tap-tapping on the valve stem with a soft-faced hammer (or something to use as a bit of a cushion for the valve stem) to see if that helps. No need to go Big John here; you're not shooting for full lift. You just need to unseat the valve a bit and see if that helps the springs and retainers find center.
Assuming straight shafts, personally I'd just grind all the rockers to clear .035"+ on the problem springs. If the springs find center later, great. If not, also great--you've still got clearance. As long as you're not making horrific grind marks or leaving sharp corners along the edges of the areas you've ground, you'll be fine. It's the lowest-stress area of the rocker, and you're grinding just in the area of the spring, not all the way across. People clearance those rockers for 1.500" valve springs and don't have problems.
If that's not enough, the Mopar Performance/Crane W2 rockers are both die-cast aluminum
and thinner in the valve spring area than your ductile-iron parts (I just checked). I've got some of those ground to clear 1.600" springs and none of 'em are broken, despite grinding I find rather primitive.