Well i have had a roller coaster of ups and downs the last 2 years. Dealing with the Children's Aid Society, they were 100% for the mom no matter what. Till things started to back fire on them and their tactics were no longer working with me. Plus the actions of the mom.
Not All Dads Are Deadbeats showed me that i could digitally record any happenings when dealing with the society. I was under the impression that i had to have consent, but in Ontario you only need one person to be agreeable and that one person happens to be yourself. After i started to record, The society slowly started to realize what was up when i would feed their exact words back at them. They would tell me one thing and do the complete opposite, trying to manipulate me and threaten me. Till things started to turn. There has been numerous occasions when they had to eat their words and not like it.
As for the courts i do not have much faith in them anymore. No matter male or female judge they are already sided with the mom no matter the circumstances, the court recorders and every one else in the court rooms are all sided with the mom. As i have come to find out the proceedings are already determined even before you enter the court room. The Lawyers are attempting to get you to follow down the road to their agreement with the other lawyer. I have fired 4 lawyers because i was not willing to let crap slide or allow them to manipulate me to their agreements.
Remember all the legal people are in line with one another to achieve things together, they will have each others back no matter what. A lawyer will not speak up or all the judges and lawyers will resent him/her and he/she will be out of work. So to keep a job they shut their mouths.
I found in order to gain what you have in mind, is to find a lawyer outside of the city (district) that the proceedings are taking place.
I have had many happy moments and just as many sad moments and the stress was insane. Under constant scrutiny.
Children Aid society tried to use an assault charge (reason i sat in jail for a weekend in april 2008) The charges were dropped, but the CAS worker tried to use that against me. I went directly to the top on that one and pressed as many buttons as i could to have things right. Now the top is not much because in Ontario we have very few people that will listen when complaining about the society.
The society also said that i had to live with my parents since i had my daughter because i was too young. My dad knocked that one down fast. He basically said "i was 20 when i got married and had my first daughter and my son is 26 with his daughter and you want him to live with his parents till his daughter is of legal age? I MAY BE DEAD FIRST!!!"
I was already living with the parents because of the assault charges and they posted the bail. My daughter was living with my parents a month after the assault took place and i was already living there so i have had my daughter since.
I could go on and on, but my fingers are sore at the moment
